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Words Of Gratitude

Words of gratitude?

You hear a lot from others, don’t you about how grateful you should be?

What are you grateful for today?

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“Be grateful for small mercies” or “you should be grateful you are not poor” or “think yourself lucky you have got a job or your health”

Insert the appropriate phrase; I am sure you get the picture.

Those common, trip off the tongue,  words of gratitude, how lucky I am to be alive, how lucky I am to have food to eat, how lucky I am to have a job or whatever it was I should be eternally grateful for.

I am ashamed to say, as a younger woman I never really took any of it as seriously as I should have.

To me it was something your elders trotted out when they wanted to make a point about you being an ungrateful little so and so.

So, naturally it went in one ear and out the other.

It is only lately and for no particular reason that strikes me, words of gratitude seem to have taken on a greater significance in my life.

Perhaps it is because I can now hear all the time, the much younger generation behind me, dismissing those words of wisdom in the same cavalier fashion I did.

Poo-pooing parents and grandparents and elders, just like I did at their age.

Their arrogance and sense of invincibility matched with a “nothing can touch me” attitude pervading their snorts of mocking.

The “old fogeys” are just rattling on.

I find myself wondering why it has become so important to me.

I think it is because it has just dawned on me I might have become the “old fogey”.

Perhaps it is some rite of passage as you enter your middle years.

Perhaps there is a switch in your brain that moves from selfish younger person to more thoughtful person when you hit middle age or your hormones change.

For sure, it’s a reaction to life events  or what you see going on in the world around you.

Loss of people close to you, reactions to war or poverty from the news or something happening in your local community.

As you get older you have seen more to thank your lucky stars for.

Whatever it is, it’s become significant for me and I am grateful (you see what I mean?) to have had my eyes opened at this point in my life.

So what has that got to do with you?

A lot as it happens.

I feel absolutely fully, completely and deeply, expressing words of gratitude should be the next stage you move to mentally after you sort out your mindset.

In your journey towards your business idea, you want as much mental preparation as you can muster because

If you cannot be grateful for the most basic things in life then you will never appreciate what comes later

So


What is gratitude then?

Well, I have been reading lately the work of a lady called Melody Beattie, a very famous writer in the world of self-development from the USA.

A woman who survived abandonment, kidnapping, sexual abuse, drug and alcohol addiction, divorce, and the death of a child. 

So if she can find things in life to be grateful for, then so can you and I

Her brand of gratitude is spoken like this:

Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more.

It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It turns problems into gifts, failures into successes, the unexpected into perfect timing and mistakes into important events.

It can turn an existence into a real life, and disconnected situations into important and beneficial lessons.

Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today and creates a vision for tomorrow

And I rather like the explanation from Harvard Medical School…

A thankful appreciation for what an individual receives, whether tangible or intangible. With gratitude, people acknowledge the goodness in their lives … As a result; gratitude also helps people connect to something larger than themselves as individuals–whether to other people, nature, or a higher power


Meaning of gratitude?

excerpted from The Oxford English Dictionary

Late Middle English from Old French, or from Medieval Latin gratitudo, from Latin gratus ‘pleasing, thankful’.

It means:

The quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness.

Or as the modern day personal development queen Oprah Winfrey expresses it perfectly

Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough

The very reason I believe you need to understand why this concept is so important to grasp after my number one,  mindset change

So onto some techniques to

Practice gratitude

You won’t start truly feeling gratitude until you start practising it.

Here are my favourite methods

Gratitude Box or Jar

This idea is one of my favourite things and particularly good to embark on at the beginning of a new year.

But you can start today if you want to, no time like the present

Instead of making resolutions you just know you won’t keep, how about filling up a box or a jar with your daily words of gratitude.

Then at the end of a week, month or year you can clearly see what wonderful things have been in your life.

A simple walk, a conversation with a friend, a problem sorted with a family member. The sound of a bird singing.

Children laughing and having simple joy in their life.

We take so many things for granted without giving them a second thought but incrementally you realise you really do have a lot to be thankful for.

You would have just glossed over them without thinking if you hadn't recorded them.

Gratitude Cards

A lovely thing to send to friends, family and colleagues when you want to express words of gratitude to them.

Amazon sell them I think, find someone who makes them perhaps

Gratitude Journal

A gratitude journal is a simple tool to write your thoughts down.

Some people advocate daily writing while others swear by a weekly brain dump of all the things, big or small that have passed through your life that week.

You can do whatever is good for you and suits your lifestyle. add something here

Here is a link to some gratitude journals I thought you might like:

My favourite one is the Tiny Buddha one with questions, prompts and quotes in.  It appeals to me the most.

There are lots of them out there, you will for sure find one to suit you.


Words of gratitude affirmations

So in your new gratitude journal you will probably initiate the use of gratitude affirmations.

An affirmation is simply a statement of something.

It is a good tool to frame your thoughts and write down exactly what you mean and how you want to say it.

Here are a few obvious ones to get the cogs in your brain moving, they are for use in the present tense.

If you prefix your statements with words of gratitude for everything you be/do/have then you will find it easier to create your affirmations.

  • I am grateful for my family
  • I am grateful for my health
  • I am grateful for my work
  • I am grateful for my friends
  • I am grateful I have a computer
  • I am grateful I can afford to have the internet

And so on…it is all going to be very personal to you and your circumstances.


Learn to write your own affirmations

For some help about how to successfully write your own words of gratitude affirmations head to the guided meditation site for some great tips.

And finally some words of gratitude to help you on your journey, different to affirmations but equally as meaningful...


Gratitude quotes

I love quotes because they can say just want you to in a beautifully succinct way.

Perfect for illustrating what you want to express in your gratitude cards perhaps?

Here are 10 of my favourite gratitude quotes;  why not sprinkle them in with your affirmations in your journal...

Be grateful for what you have and stop complaining--it bores everybody else, does you no good, and doesn't solve any problems
Zig Ziglar

I  was complaining that I had no shoes till I met a man who had no feet - Confucius

Gratitude doesn’t change the scenery. It merely washes clean the glass you look through so you can clearly see the colours
Richelle E. Goodrich

My socks may not match, but my feet are always warm - Maureen McCullough

Things turn out best for people who make the best of the way things turn out - John F Kennedy

Gratitude is riches. Complaint is poverty - Doris Day

The hardest arithmetic to master is that which enables us to count our blessings - Eric Hoffer

Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things - Robert Brault

Three meals plus bedtime make four sure blessings a day
Mason Cooley

Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it - William Arthur Ward

Make it a habit to tell people 'thank you'. To express your appreciation sincerely and without the expectation of anything in return. Truly appreciate those around you, and you’ll soon find many others around you. Truly appreciate life, and you’ll find that you have more of it - Maya Angelou


Denzel Washington expresses  it all beautifully

Life is short, try to to more grateful